Posted: Monday, August 11, 2014. 12:18 pm CST.
By Marisa Alamilla
I was listening to the talk shows and I will say this and please understand that Belize is at a very bad place and so I believe we need to keep things real.
People die everyday and sometimes it seems that one life is recognized more than the other and that is part and parcel of the problem we have in Belize.
A great cyclist died and yes the country lost a great cycling ambassador by all accounts.
There are those who want to blame the media, there are others blaming the gangs and there are others blaming the GOB and the lack of justice. I think the blame falls squarely on us.
We have lost our way. We have lost our root values and principles. We have lost our children….and we lost them because the truth is that many of our men are “sperm donors” and as mothers we find excuses, blame the sperm donors and never realized that we could make the problem much worse if we did not realize our importance and role and did it no matter what. I am a single mom and I will not tell you its easy.
Its not easy, its been hard, lots of tears, lots of hard times, sleepless nights, times when you feel the world is against you and you don’t know where to turn.Its made so much harder when you do not have supporting structures.
When the fathers of the children you have find every excuse why they cannot help, when they are living their lives as if their children did not exists and their mothers and families support their bullshit behavior by making excuses for him and painting you the bad person.
When men do not hold up their end of the responsibility it makes it so much harder in an unforgiving society for a mother to do her part but its not impossible.
I was one of those mothers who allowed others to correct my children, I was not their friend and I make no apologies for that, I was a disciplinarian, and I was militant. I spared no rod and spoilt no child.
I was not abusive. I knew though that if I was solid in my conviction to be a parent I would lose my children along the way to an unforgiving world that cares not for the why’s.
As a parent I refused to spend any time bitching about how much time their father was not around and more time ensuring that they didn’t even realize he was gone for that too I make no apologizes.
I had no time to be up and down in courts, no time to be teaching him how to be a man because I had my own son to raise to become a man and not a clue how to do it.
Thank God I had a dad who was one so I figured I would just try to copy what my dad did for me.
When men are not actively involved in their children’s lives we pay as a society, when as a society we turn a blind eye to men who are womanizers, men who are abusive, men who make kids all over and then cannot physically, emotionally, or spiritually live up to their responsibilities this is the end result.
A country in chaos.
When as women we do not understand our worth and value as the backbone of a country, when we live trying to keep a man instead of keeping our children chaos happens.
Females need to understand that if we are not strong enough we will be the ultimate losers. We will lose what you are trying to keep most – a man, you will lose yourself, and you will lose your children.
Tears will become common place and there will soon be no shoulders to lean on.
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