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Trapped in a bad relationship? (for Belizeans Only)

Posted: Tuesday, August 18, 2020. 9:26 am CST.

The views expressed in this article are those of the writer and not necessarily those of Breaking Belize News.

By Bernard Bulwer: Trapped in bad relationships … You never know what you’re missing until you know what you should be getting.

One of the saddest things in life is to go through life, never knowing or experiencing what it is to be in relationships where you are valued, respected, appreciated, encouraged … in relationships where you are not only built up, but where there is also the honesty and freedom to receive constructive criticism … including being told when you’re acting like a jackass.

There are organizations that encourage (mostly women) not to endure relationships dominated by never-ending disrespect and abuse. Indeed, such women are told to leave … and flee … fast!

Here we have a situation in Belize, unless you have vested interest in the status quo … unless you don’t know or want better, we put up with serial abuse from the dominant political tribes to which we are wedded. Some even admit, “they may be users and abusers, but they are “mine”.

So Belizeans are “used to being treated a certain way”. Every so often, we exchange one bad political relationship for another. We willingly fall in love, or are otherwise seduced and pimped relationships that … by their fruits … you know them.

The way this system is played … the way the trap is set … makes Belize a “Pimper’s Paradise”. This is not simply a Belizean staple, it is practiced worldwide. That’s why even young prophets like Bob Marley stated in Ambush in the Night, “keep on fighting for power … through political strategy … they keep us hungry  … and when your brother wants to get some food … your [own] brother got to be your enemy”.

So the system has the masses engrossed about who will “win elections”, even when the masses in the country keep losing on several fronts–economically, prospects and opportunities, crime and violence, dignity, and overall quality of life.

If you don’t consider this abuse and exploitation, you need to google and understand the Stockholm syndrome. We are putting up with a tragic lifestyle of self-disrespect, practicing idolatry …. putting up with a system based on personalities and promises, not results.

“But I like he! …” You’re entitled to that ma’am, but then, stop complaining! You are getting exactly what you put up with. If that’s what Belizeans want … if that’s the bed that they wish to continue to spread, this is their prerogative.

Life is not a joke. Life is not a game. Life is serious business. At least that’s the way I see it. I am living on borrowed time. And so are you.

I aspire to give honor where honor is due, but when I reflect on where we could have been as a nation if we on had some serious love for each other, a sense of national vision and purpose … looking out for each other … looking out for how we could really help and encourage each other to bring out the best in each other … and make use of our collective gifts and talents … what kind of nation could we have been today!

This is the pain I feel, and many of us feel, when we think of the land that gave us birth. BECAUSE WE CAN DO BETTER.


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